Confidence means different things to different people. It can be the difference between success, achievement, overcoming or not. Confidence is a highly sought-after attribute. Many envy what others appear to have. Whether or not we [perceive] we have it or not, can affect our lives in general.
We can ‘spot’ confidence in others. But, what does it look like, or feel like? What does someone do to create that impression?! How do we experience it? How do we know? Many people may look confident but feel very different inside, masking insecurities in some way.
So what is it?
Dictionary definitions include:
But, what does that mean?
Here’s a collection of different descriptions.
What’s your understanding of confidence?
Confidence and, or, mentally healthy? Mental health and confidence are intricately connected. Good mental health is a sense of wellbeing, confidence and self-esteem. Interestingly, the dictionary definitions and people’s descriptions of confidence almost mirror the definition of mental health!
Having, lacking or lost confidence are words on many peoples lips, words which lead to limiting beliefs. “Oh I can’t do that!” before even trying!!
Are we too hooked up on the word confidence perhaps? Many people just get on with things. Is that confidence, or mentally healthy, or both? Do those people think in those terms though? So do we sometimes overthink, or over worry about being confident rather than considering ourselves mentally healthy?
It’s clear that confidence is a key factor in our mental health and well-being, but are they interchangeable, or even the same thing, given the two definitions?
Yet in reality, fear, the unknown, being unsafe, or not in control, impacts confidence. Things like getting hurt, challenging ourselves or someone, people laughing at us, failing, losing, coming last, not getting the expected exam results, relationship break up, can be factors affecting confidence. Equally, confidence to run a business, be a freelancer, have a job with all the ‘ups and downs’ too is challenging. It’s easy to see how confidence can be effected.
How we regain, find, improve our confidence; how we overcome fear, apprehension, or caution should be done with patience, encouragement, support and time.
The saying “feel the fear and do it anyway” can motivate too. How often have we done what we’re fearful of, to then have a huge smile on our face! Performing that dance, doing that treatment, using that equipment, singing in front of people, returning after an injury or illness.
And remember, if we’ve done something once, we can always do it again.